On Cutting Ties

I had to cut things off with a toxic friend. She has bpd. The problem is, she is rude and hurtful to people (including myself) when she doesn't take her meds. She normally tosses them behind a bed when her mom gives them to her. Am I in the wrong?

You don’t need to justify cutting toxic people out of your life (mental illness or not). Mental illness is no excuse to be an asshole. I’m not overlooking the struggles borderlines may face that challenge them from having healthy and consistent relationships. I am making the distinction that enduring those struggles is not an excuse for hurting other people. You’re not wrong for protecting yourself.

On Being the Favorite

I think I'm someone's FP and I can't be. I'm the most unreliable FP they could possibly have and I think they're noticing that and they're using every tactic they have against me to get more attention and it's regressing me, idk what to do.

There is no such thing as an unreliable or reliable favorite person. The concept of favorite people is a myth some borderlines cling to in order to feel safe in their chaotic world of mood swings and splitting. (I’m guilty of it and constantly need to check myself.).

I don’t exactly know what they are saying to you, but I sense that you feel cornered. Just remember that you have every right to feel uncomfortable and you are allowed to lay down boundaries (or even end the relationship all together). It may sound nice to be admired as a favorite person, but in reality being on a pedestal is just as dehumanizing being devalued. You’re no longer a person who is allowed to be a person.