On Staying Sick
Love On the Borderline
Splitting is never trusting happiness, closeness, intimacy because you’re all too familiar with the loss of it. Not because people are inherently bad and distrustful, but because your warped mind will turn it upside down somehow, perceiving rejection even when it isn’t there.
On Emotional Dishonesty
My wife has bpd & has a male friend who texts her all the time. I know he has strong feelings for her. She lies to me about contact with him. If i mention it she gets angry and shuts me down. How do i talk & set boundaries with this?
I Took Shrooms and Saw My BPD
I did shrooms last weekend and saw my BPD.
On Cutting Ties
I had to cut things off with a toxic friend. She has bpd. The problem is, she is rude and hurtful to people (including myself) when she doesn't take her meds. She normally tosses them behind a bed when her mom gives them to her. Am I in the wrong?
On Being the Favorite
I think I'm someone's FP and I can't be. I'm the most unreliable FP they could possibly have and I think they're noticing that and they're using every tactic they have against me to get more attention and it's regressing me, idk what to do.
On the Best Drug in the World
I think my BPD is making me fall for people really fast. It's kind of awkward I get really intense crushes really quick. Does anyone else get that?
On Telling Your Therapist
Hi there!! I think I have bpd and I'm currently in therapy for depression and anxiety but the more I learn about bpd the more I relate to it and so far I match up w almost all if not all of the symptoms. I want to bring it up w my therapist to see what she thinks or to see if she could help me but I'm not sure how. I was wondering if you had any advice on how to start the conversation w her. Thank you!! And I absolutely love your blog you are amazing. 💜💜💜
What Splitting Looks Like
Can you give me an example of splitting after a fight with your boyfriend? I'm sorry I've been asking so many questions. I'm just trying to figure out what a normal reaction and what a symptom would be in that situation. It's still so hard to differentiate for me.
On the Borderline Lens
I know this is vague, but I was just wondering if there was anything you could tell me about BPD. I know about it in general, but I was also wondering... How much does it hurt? What kinds of things trigger the most pain for you? I'm so sorry of this is intrusive or rude, I am just so curious about it.
On Preventing the Worst
My loved one said she wanted to die because her past is to hurtful and that her present is affected by it. She explain how much she's been and is suffering for 3 hours. The day after she was splitting on me and telling me to leave her alone to go away. It's been 3 months I am worried and cannot get in touch with her without her saying to leave her alone. She's a person with quiet bpd. It's confusing she definitely told me cause she needs help from me. I tried to tell her she's splitting and she told me you're right nothing is good from you. How can I help and prevent the worst?
On Perceived Rejection
I was wondering how u got to the point of actually having a bf. There's this guy that likes me and I him, but anytime it's close to getting to that relationship point; I wreck it? Idk. I was wondering if you had any struggle in that area and how you managed it?
Penpal Love
i really appreciate your blog & your caring attitude and all your posts about what you go through help me so much bc i constantly doubt myself for not acting out like others w bpd and your posts are super reassuring.
On Being Your Own Detective
Is it possible for splitting to happen without a trigger or is it just a trigger I'm unaware of?
On Resources
Recently I was warded and diagnosed with BPD. Its been a hard road but seeing you answer questions about it makes me feel not as alone as I thought I once was. Thank you for the informative posts.
CBT: Work Trigger
CBT exercise for when the “I’m not good enough” feels come up at work.
BPD & Relationship Maintenance Skill
For relationships you want to keep, this skill comes in handy when having difficult conversations!
Train of Thought
What my depressive episodes looked like before medication and leaving a shitty job (2015)
On Pet Loss
The longing to be with Lucky again is so apparent that I can’t think of happy memories without crying. His absence is so painfully present.
Surviving
If I were talking to anyone else, I’d tell them it wasn’t their fault. But for some reason, maybe a feeble attempt to own what’s happened to me, I believed I did it to myself.